Fornication Pt.4
Proverbs 5 - Overcoming Fornication
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In the last three parts of this series we learned how to perceive a harlot, the consequences for getting involved with her, and what actually happens when you have sex. In this last part, we’ll learn how to overcome fornication. Proverbs 5 ends with some very good advice for married, and future married, men of God.
Let’s get into it.
Tip 1: Be faithful and satisfied
You should be faithful to your wife, just as you take water from your own well. And don’t be like a stream from which just any woman may take a drink. (vs 15-16 CEV).
Only have sex with your own wife. Only your wife can take from your “river” because she’s in covenant with you. Notice the wording: “don’t be a stream for any woman to take a drink.” Because an adulteress has not made a commitment to you, when you cheat with her, she only takes from you (time, finances, and your soul) and contributes nothing in return.
Your wife, on the other hand, has made a commitment to stay by your side. Therefore, when you give yourself to her, you lose nothing but rather gain a return because your wife has made a commitment to stick with you, invest in you, but most importantly, to be your helper until death (Gen 2:18). A whore doesn’t fulfill these responsibilities, nor has she made any such commitment. Remember your marriage vows.
Tip 2: Stay a virgin
Save yourself for your wife
and don’t have sex with other women (vs 17 CEV).
As single men of God, we should keep our virginity, or remain celibate until marriage. We should be thinking about the purity of our bodies and souls. You should want to be a clean vessel, not polluted by all these other women. You shouldn’t want to bring that kind of baggage into your marriage. No other woman should be able to say, “I know you” in an intimate way. Guys often want virgins, but have not kept their own virginity.
Even though virginity has become rare, and a term equating to immaturity and naivety, I thank God for keeping me a virgin. There’s been times when I almost fell, but it’s only by the grace of God that I didn’t join myself to some harlot. The benefits I’ve experienced include:
- No woman knows me in an “intimate” way
- No soul ties to anyone
- No broken hearts and callouses on my soul
- No children that I might not know about
- No children that I do know about, but don’t want
- No old girlfriends
- No old girlfriends in my head
- No worries about STDs
- No concerns about my penis size
- No sexual pressures to perform
- No shame about not being able to sexually perform
- No pride from being able to sexually perform well
- No need to chase after women because of an insatiable lust caused by fornication
I was belittled by Christian men and women because of my virginity. These were really worldly people pretending to be Christians. No real Christian would do such a thing to another brother in the Lord. In hindsight, they were jealous because I had something they could never get back. On top of that, my lifestyle exposed their sin.
To all the men of God who are keeping themselves pure: let those whores and whore-mongers laugh and talk. Let them call evil good, and good evil – woe unto them (Isaiah 5:20). Those people have polluted their bodies and want you to become as them. Misery loves company. But the lake of fire will be these sinner’s final destination unless they repent (Jude 1:7-8). The Lord has a blessing for all those who keep themselves from fornication.
Virginity until marriage is the norm in the kingdom of God. Fornication is the crazy, erratic and damaging way of the devil. The body was made to join with one person of the opposite sex, and with one Spirit – God’s.
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