When a husband has joined a Israelite hate group a wife’s only solution is submission and complete trust in God for your husband’s deliverance.
The goal of this article is to provide a solution for Christian wives whose husbands have veered off into Israelite hate groups. The solution is submission and complete trust in God for your husband’s deliverance. This article will show you how to do it.
Since the posting of the article Why I Can’t Join the Black Hebrew Israelites, I’ve received numerous emails and comments regarding the division some of these Israelite religions are causing in marriages. Some marriages are even facing divorce. Here’s what I’m hearing:
- Now that some husbands have woke up to the fact of Hebrew descent, they want to practice polygyny which is an obvious disruption to an already established monogamous relationship of several years.
- Wives have reported that their husbands have grown colder, meaner, and isolated ever since joining; and many camps teach the belittlement of women; saying that women are the downfall of man; and that women should basically be seen and not heard.
- Wives who don’t agree with the exclusion of white people, and the bondage of the Law taught by these groups are labeled as being “unequally yoked,” rebellious, “witches,” brainwashed, and “spirits of eve” by their husbands.
- Also, apart from married couples, mothers have voiced concern for their sons who’ve joined these cults saying that they’re beginning to hate Christianity and throw the Grace of God completely out the window.
- Overall, these women have tried to show their husbands and sons every scripture in the Bible. They’ve got their pastors to speak with them and, of course, prayed, but to no avail.
What can a woman do?
First of all, before we start, if there is consistent verbal and physical abuse, a wife should separate (1 Corinthians 7:15). Men doing such vile things to their wives are not born again, nor are they “men of God” (even if they claim to be the Most High’s chosen people).
However, if you’re verbally and physically abusing your husband and receiving such in return, then stop abusing your husband. To win your husband and gain favor with God, you must live righteously as we will see later on.
With that said, let’s see what needs to be done.
1. Accept the truth
Some wives have already done this, but for those who’ve haven’t: the first thing a mother or wife must do is understand that Israelite ancestry is true—black people really are the true Israelites.
If you don’t believe this one truth, you can’t really deal with your husband properly because you haven’t awakened to the truth yourself.
Your husband’s problem is that the truth has blown his mind, but he wasn’t grounded in Christ (perhaps not even born again) and now he’s been carried off into a false religion by deceived men (Ephesians 1:14). Israelite heritage isn’t a lie, but the rituals and beliefs of some of these groups are.
2. Understand why black men get caught up in religions like this
The main reason why black men get caught up in religions like this is because it gives them an identity. Israelite religions give black men their roots, their heritage, and their scriptures back, producing some sense of self-worth and strength.
It’s the same with other black religions like the Nation of Islam, and the Kemetic groups. Christianity doesn’t provide an origin story for the black man, instead, Christianity lies to black men.
Christianity was perverted by Europeans and used to keep black men enslaved. Christianity hid the real reason why black people are at the bottom of every society.
Christianity lied and told black men they were a cursed people, and to add insult to injury, Christianity lifted up an image of a white homosexual man and called him the son of God!Israelite religions tell black men the truth (in part) while Christianity is exposed to be a lie, so there’s no question why Black Hebrew Israelites oppose Christianity and join these religious groups.
PS: While I may speak negatively about Christianity, Jesus is my Lord and Savior and I am a follower of his word the Bible, because of that, he’s taught me to discern between the real Jesus and the man-made Jesus and religion called Christianity of today. Check out my studies and research on the origins of Christianity.
OK, so now that we know why your husbands are apart of these groups, we can talk about how to deal with it.
3. Don’t argue with him
First off, stop bombarding him with scriptures. Yes, this is the initial reaction we have when we see our loved ones in religious error, but after they’ve rejected clear scriptures, it’s time to let the Holy Spirit work.
What you have to understand is that your husbands are now under the influence of demons. They aren’t thinking logically anymore—demons are manipulating their minds. And you can’t fight demons in the flesh with “biblical interventions,” a sit-down with your local pastor, or arguing back and forth with them—these methods simply won’t work.
I feel like many wives have made the problem worse by arguing with their husbands. No man in a religion like this is going to change by his wife nagging him. All it will do is harden the man and he will begin to look at his wife as an adversary and that’s where talks of separation and divorce start happening, or worse physical and verbal abuse.
Wives, if you’ve done this, don’t get down on yourself, you were doing what you thought would work. Forgive yourselves, but don’t do it again. For future reference, never nag your husband about anything. Just pray—you’ll get better results.
4. Trust in the Spirit of God. Fight in the Spirit.
You can’t fight this in the flesh. The bible is clear: We wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against evil spirits (Eph 6:12). Evil spirits of error have your husband captive and the only way to free him is if the Holy Spirit grabs him. You can’t do it, but you can petition the process through fervent prayer. So keep praying. The word encourages you:
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done (Phil 4:6 NLT)
The Lord hears his people when they call to him for help. He rescues them from all their troubles. (Psalms 34:17 NLT)You can pray for anything, and if you have faith, you will receive it (Matthew 21:22 NLT)
5. Accept the authority of your husbands
“In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over by observing your pure and reverent lives.” (1 Peter 3:1-2 NLT)
This is a powerful scripture. It says that wives can win over their husbands by their godly lives. If you align your life with God, God can align your husband in the truth.
I’m not saying that you are not living godly (because I don’t know your life), but I know being in opposition with your husband, resisting him, refusing to go to meetings and arguing with him will be taken as a lack of submission—and this is all the enemy will need to convince him he should divorce you.
Instead, this is what you can do: Tell him, I don’t agree with what you believe, but I will no longer fight you on this.
Submit to his leadership and become the best wife you can be to him. Obey him to the point of sin. That is, don’t obey him if he asks you to sin. Become a very meek and silent wife (if not already); and all while praying for his deliverance. Then he can’t say, my wife is nagging me and fighting with me; and you can’t be accused of being a jezebel or a witch.
As you fervently pray, you could ask God something like this:
Lord, I can’t deliver him from these demons of deception, but YOU can. I give this to you … Free my husband’s mind, show him the truth and strengthen me to stay faithful to you and your truth …”
Have other concerned family and friends join in prayer for him, but do it privately. Don’t allow them to approach him with biblical interventions and what not, just leave him alone, and pray for him privately.
But when you pray, go away by yourself, shut the door behind you, and pray to your Father in private. Then your Father, who sees everything, will reward you (Matt 6:6 NLT).
Now, this is what I call “fighting in the Spirit.” What you’ve done is acknowledged your weakness to change your husband, and through humility before the Lord, God will move on your behalf. And that’s all God needs:
- submission and trust in him
- and submission to your husband
If you’re doing everything right in the sight of God, why wouldn’t God answer your prayer, especially one of salvation for your husband’s soul? The word says:
And we are confident that he hears us whenever we ask for anything that pleases him. And since we know he hears us when we make our requests, we also know that he will give us what we ask for (1 John 5:14-15 NLT)
But you gotta keep praying and believing—never losing hope:
Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere. (Eph 6:18 NLT) Never stop praying (1 Thess 5:17 NLT)And so I tell you, keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you (Luke 11:9 NLT)
The goal is your complete belief that God can change your husbands and NOT by your own efforts.
Now, there is no guarantee that your husband will be delivered from this because he’s the one that has to make the decision, but at least God will remove the veil of deception off of his mind to see the error and show him the truth.
Prayer changes things and it’s the most powerful solution to this problem. The goal is your complete belief that God can change your husbands and NOT by your own efforts.
Don’t rely on yourself, rely on God.
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Sorry! I simply could not agree with much of this article. What I would day to women caught in the situations putting in this article is dump the guy. Eph 5:25 says husbands should Love their wives. Any man in one of these cults (especially where the man is being encouraged into polygyny) clearly doesn’t love his wife and is inducing his wife to son. So dump him
Kevin, your advice is exactly what Satan wants. The scriptures are clear on how a wife can win her husband and you suggest just throwing in the towel when things get rough. Marriage is an institution of God, not man. And God hates divorce. Their vows said, “for better or worse.” Therefore, submitting to God and one’s husband is the best remedy for change. Breaking up and divorcing will only leave two people torn. God can bring the man back through prayer and submission. It’s times like these when God shows his power.
Hi I pray someone on this site can help a desperate mother. My 20 yr old daughter has been going to a black israelites church and she has drastically changed, she is withdrawn started lying and has no time for her family. Can anyone give me any advice?
Susan,
Prayer changes things. Keep your daughter in fervent prayer.
This article was really what I needed to read. I have read another on divorce and when it is permitted. If your husband or wife still won’t leave these groups, have changed dramatically and are so full of anger, is it just a case of being long suffering? I have been accused of serving another god for not wanting to attend a feast day or sabbath class, that i’m possessed and under satan’s influence because I am not honoring the authority that a husband is over a woman he claims . I am accused of dishonoring my husband for not wanting to be a part one of these groups and daring to question the doctrine. I know we should be meek and mild mannered but according to scripture are we supposed to just deal with this? It feels like mental abuse. Its not easy to talk to family because they don’t understand why we don’t follow pagan traditions etc. Please could you also advise if i am dishonoring my husband, Jesus and God if I don’t cover my head when praying and reading scripture? Also do we need to be baptized in a certain name? I hear many people say we need to get baptized by an elder in these churches and it has to be in God’s name but I see so many groups using names like Yah, Eheyeh Asher Eheyeh, Yahuah in the name of Yahousha. Please can you shed some light?
Hi Matilda. You should attend feast day and Sabbath classes, and if he wants you to cover your head, do so. Even if you dont agree, these practices are not sinful.
To refuse your husband on matters like this is dishonoring and not respecting his authority. It’s only when he or they ask you to commit sin that you must refuse. You are to please God over man.
However, God has established an order in marriage you must follow in order to please God; and as the scripture I mentioned in the article states, you can win your husband through submission.
Yes, this is about long suffering as 1 Cor 13:4 says: love is long suffering/patient.
Thank you for replying. I have a few more questions I would really appreciate you answering.
I never felt good going to a conventional church but went as my husband wanted to. When I asked him why our pastor was a woman when it stated in scripture they aren’t allowed, he went crazy and told me to ask her husband and I said I was asking my husband because Paul stated we weren’t permitted in church to talk, we had to go through our spouse. He now acknowledges that what I felt was true and that traditional Christianity with its pagan traditions was off.
But now, I feel the same and I don’t like how these Hebrew Israelites teach 5 scriptures with hours of talking about fleeing or what other groups are doing. Please don’t get me wrong, there is a lot of truth too. However it upsets me that I have to attend these feasts when these elders pretty much sit in the highest seats like it states in Matthew and how scripture appears to be twisted. So I have to just go along to these cult like groups meetings when my conscious says to get out of there?
Do I have to use these names given to God too as these groups say the power is in the name and wherever Lord is they change it to what they believe it is in Hebrew. What if that name is not correct? What if these elders are wolves in sheep’s clothing deceiving followers? So I allow our children to listen to what they speak?
Also in the old testament it says in quite a few passages feast days are to be ‘in the place which the Lord shall choose to place his name there’ I read in the Tanakh that is says in the land to celebrate these feast days. Therefore, as we aren’t in the land, is it unlawful to celebrate them? Also with the passover lamb no bone was to be broken and it couldn’t be killed or eaten just anywhere.
I am heartbroken because if I knew all this before I would have seriously reconsidered getting married. I didn’t really believe in much before and being naive didn’t realize the severity of not being obedient to your husband ect. I’m all for being obedient but when it down to following these cult groups teachings….that is tough!!! To me it feels sinful because I feel i’m being led down the wrong way and what if I lead my children down that way….wouldn’t I be punished??? I wouldn’t take them to a church with idols so why do I have to take them to these gatherings?
Also be could you advise on the baptism question?
Matilda
Matilda, You can be baptised in the name of Jesus as the scriptures say:
Other scriptures mention “in the name of the father, son and Holy Spirit.” This just means in the authority of the most high God. It’s about the authority behind the name. The name of Jesus is different in all languages, but if you’re directing your prayers, praise and worship to the true God, he hears you. Don’t worry about the name, just be concerned with obeying God’s word.
As for your reply: All I can do is reiterate what I said before with the scripture to back it up:
You can either follow the word of God and fervently pray for your husband’s deliverance and see God work, or not.
Yes, I know you don’t agree with these false prophets and see them twisting scripture. But you’re under the authority of your husband. And if you follow the scripture, just as your husband seen how Christianity was in error with women pastors, so may he see that these groups are in error too.
Just hold onto Christ. You’re focusing more on yourself, and how you feel, rather than focusing on God through prayer and allowing him to work. God knows your discomfort and disagreement with these groups, but he can’t move until you rest in him.
In their presence use their alternative name for Jesus, in private, use the name of Jesus or whatever you’re comfortable with using. The important thing is you stay close to God about this and continue to cry out to him on behalf of your husband.
I have been with my husband 25years (since I was 14)(married 7) and I have put up with a lot(physical emotional mental from each of us) and yet remained faithful(unfortunately he has a history of infidelity before and during marriage) the past 2 years he has converted to the I.U.I.C though I agree with a lot of things (not everything) I cannot become a hypocrite and support it (reason I left church) I am a bi racial (father black mother white ) yes I believe white people are devilish as well as there are blacks Hispanics etc which are just as evil I cannot say all whites are evil or treat them as such and not because I am part white my mother has betrayed me in one of the worst ways possible but I love her its not my place to punish her now my husband has always had a controlling spirit this just intensified it ,I have met him in a lot of his ways no holidays dietary changes I don’t really go anywhere to work and home (to cook clean etc)sex when he wants it even when i dont (do to many reasons) i dont really associate with family or friends but I don’t go to meetings with him and I don’t wear dresses often for one i never was a dress person it was a point I would never wear them I do wear them more often but never when its cold I don’t wear sexy or revealing clothes either (ive been molested a few times and raped when I was young )and I don’t believe that Deutoronomy 22:5 meant that women are not to wear pants I feel he just uses this as another way to control me (if I love him I would do it or I’m going to hell because I wear pants and that’s whorish,I am to give him what he wants even if I am unhappy or miserable (basically how I feel is not importantant I’ve also been told that unfortunately the life I’m in everyone else’s wants & needs come before mines) this is not what I signed up for and now saying he would divorce me for being wicked (but I would be the most righteous women if I got rid of pants) we have 4 children and 5 grandchildren my oldest (girls) are on their own my sons 16 and 8 are home with us the 16 year old is unhappy he has been playing football since he was 6 he is in highschool will graduate a year earlier so prom homecoming senior events and football but he is being told he does not love God (my son feels he cannot dislike a person because of color ) my 8 year old almost white looking just wants to have a relationship with his dad but he doesn’t pay attention he just goes and plays videos with the other children whose parents are part of I.U.I.C if u ask him why us he fasting or why do they do meetings he says his dad wants him to I don’t know what to do I didn’t get married to get a divorce and if they truly believed in the bible they wouldn’t threaten to divorce because of pants or anything besides adultry this has brought so much chaos confusion and conflict to my entire family/marriage aspect the children barely talk to their dad I remain try quiet to keep from arguing (which doesn’t work all the time if I try to walk away to diffuse the argument he will grab me try to hold me there which makes me want become combative (but I don’t) if I talk to him about our family and what I don’t like about the relationships if him and our kids he doesn’t care he does what’s needed and does care if he bonds with them I use to host family dinners family love has always been big for us but now his family is I.U.I.C not us and pleasing them is what’s important and I make him look bad by not calling him Lord or playing the part
T.K., I hear your frustration. This is exactly why we all need the Son of God. All of this is a result of the absence of Christ at the foundation of your marriage. There’s all sorts of people to blame, but Christ can repair it all. The first thing you should do is examine yourself to see if you’re of the faith and fervently pray to be in right standing with God—make sure you are. As the Most High begins to work with you, he can begin to work with your husband as well. God is able, but you must trust him as your source of salvation.
Hello everyone. My husband is into that every deep, we are newly weds. I need help ever bad he’s aways preaching about the stuff he finds and at times is every anger as well. It’s like he’s Brain washed with everything now. When he’s on his phone he’s looking at this stuff. He gets off work it’s the samething. It’s like he’s hole life is this. Plz help me with this I’m so lost
Hi Nikkim,
We feel your pain on this. This is typical of men absent of the Spirit. They tend to go get very angry and go a little bit crazy. But the Holy Spirit is the one who keeps us grounded when we do discover our true heritage. Now that he knows who he really is, it’s time for him to receive the Spirit of God so that he can please God. Without the Spirit it doesn’t matter if we’re all awakened, we’ll still perish. I will pray for your husband, and you must not stop praying for him as well. Our prayer is that the Holy Spirit anchors his mind and guides him into all truth.
Thank you.. but I love my husband but I’m not willing to change my beliefs because of what he believes. It’s like at times he tries to force this upon me and thats not right at all. He doesn’t want to do holidays due to this. He refuses to have a tree and I have a 12yr old of my own. And he’s tryna take things from us. Since he’s into this, my family does not come to my house are anything, I talk to him about it, it does no good maybe a few days but he’s back to doing all this stuff.. he’s not the same person no more. It’s about to be a yr he’s been doing this and I know it’s only gonna be worse. It’s has me in a emotional wreck at times. But I shall not let this break me I will continue to pray for my family.
Hi Nikkim, Most marriage vows included “To honor and obey” and “for better and for worse.” These are the times. Wives are to honor their husbands and obey them, but if he asks you to sin against God, you must not obey him. Abstaining from pagan holidays is not sin. Obedience and submission is the key to winning your husband over. The fact that you struggle with him gives him all the right to continue down this path. Wives don’t want to hear it but the scripture is clear on what to do:
“In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over by observing your pure and reverent lives.” (1 Peter 3:1-2 NLT)
You can win your husband over by submission but further opposition with your husband will only cause more frustration. If you trust in God your husband can be freed from this cult.
Awesome!
My husband is black, and I am white, we have been married 23 years, and have 4 beautiful children, 3 years ago he suffered many medical issues, some caused front left love damage. He came across the Hebrew Israelites shortly after his first stroke. I do believe black people are the true Israelites, I believe that Yshua is black not white. But the bible states salvation is for all who believe., repent and accept him as savior. I do everything I can for my husband, after finding iUIC, I am no longer his baby, but an Edomite, Jezebeel, Whore, the Bible is not for me, only him, and only through him will I be allowed into heaven, that the Gentiles are also the Hebrew Israelites, our children are heathens, he says horrible things to them, it borders abuse, I love him, he is my other half, what do I do? I pray, I fast, I bless our house casting out demons. What do I do?
Hi, we feel your pain. There is a growing email list of wives who are in prayer for their husbands, would you like to be added? You’re not wrestling with your husband, but with evil spirits that have his mind (Eph 6:12). Only God can save his mind and show him the truth. You as his wife, must continue to petition God and submit to your husband as long as you are not asked to sin. The Lord can deliver, but you must trust in him.
Yes, please add me to the prayer list, I know when two or more are gathered. What do I do when it turns physical? It has a few times, and a few times with our children. I’m hurting so much for my husband, for our children and myself. I see satan working, but how do I protect myself and children when it turns physical.
“But God hath called us to peace” (1 Cor 7:15). In the case of physical violence, I recommend separation. God has called you to peace, not physical and verbal abuse. Outside of that environment you can continue your prayers for him and the marriage.
My husband has also joined IUIC and although at the beginning I was quite frustrated with their teachings I now also believe that blacks, Hispanics and Native Americans are the true Jews of the bible.
However, here is my dilemma, my husband is requesting that I wear dresses, head coverings etc; although I have acknowledged his religion and beliefs I do not feel that he now has a right to convert me to IUIC. We’ve always been an outgoing social family from different religious backgrounds, he was Baptist and I am from a Protestant upbringing, born and raised in Europe.
It’s more or less the withdrawal from society I can’t accept, in addition to him calling white people “devils and “evil” in front of our 6 year old daughter. I am trying to teach her “truth”, cultural differences, religious freedom etc; which I all still firmly believe in. I also strongly agree that different religious partners are able to thrive in a relationship.
As long as we respect and acknowledge our differences and revel in our similarities. It has worked before but, no longer since he’s joined the IUIC. Over the weekend we intended to walk thru our local downtown area, once we parked he refused to leave the vehicle stating “there are too many whites here and I don’t feel comfortable!” This was the straw that broke the camels back in my case. How can this religion bring someone to the point where they are unable to walk in an area where there are more “whites” than there are diverse cultures?
He states I would never understand because I was raised white. On the other hand he feels I should understand and convert because my biological father (whom I’ve never met)is Dominican and according to the bible you are what your father is.
My point of frustration has reached a boiling point and I’ve asked him for a divorce. I can no longer accept a religion that dictates to him where we can and cannot spend quality family time.
Whatever happened to accepting our cultural and religious differences? Isn’t that what makes for more understanding and acceptance?
Hi Trisha,
You said, “I do not feel that he now has a right to convert me to IUIC.”
You didn’t read this article, did you? The remedy for saving your husband from these cults is submission to him and to God!
Your husband is the head of you, and you are to follow his leading. If he wants you to wear a dress, cover your head and so forth, you do so out of obedience to your husband and to God who put him in that position no matter how much you don’t like it. Only to the point of sin should you obey.
Didn’t your vows say, “Till death do you part, for better or worse, to honor [your husband] and obey [your husband].” Then why are you considering a divorce? Imma tell you why shortly.
Your husband, whom you have little respect for, has every right to conform his family to his new found religion no matter if it’s accurate or not. What I see in some of you wives is defiance, pride and a lack of submission to the leadership and authority of your husbands and therefore rebellion to the God who established this order.
Your husband is the teacher and leader of the family, not you. You are to follow his lead and carry his instructions to the children. Not only are you rebellious, you’re about to destroy the institute God put together called marriage all because you don\’t want to submit. The root problem with many wives is rebellion and this awakening to Black Hebrew Israelite heritage is just bringing it out.
You who don’t want to submit, need to repent before the God who established the order of husbands and wives and ask for his help to be a righteous Proverbs 31 woman he called you to be.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything (Ephesians 5:22-24)
I was lead to this site seeking knowledge on the black Israelite religion and after reading this article I see why I would never want to be apart this. A friend of mine, who was a good Christian before, decided to join the organization following her husband because she thought it was the right thing to do. She quit her career to become a homemaker, covers her head in public, dresses modestly and became submissive. Since she joined she has become distant, quiet, non-communicative. She has become so fragile and skinny that she could be easily mistaken for anorexic. As concerned family and friends, we questioned her about her life but she would never give any answers. Until one day, after being hospitalized, she FINALLY admitted to us that her husband has been beating her DAILY. He punched her in the stomach (she is currently 6 months pregnant) and choked her unconscious (which led her to being hospitalized). He has committed adultery several times since he joined the organization and even told her that if the sex of the baby is not a boy, he is going to leave her. She said that the only reason she never told anyone about what was going on is because she was trying to stick with her husband and remain obedient. Now I don’t knock peoples personal beliefs but when is enough enough? What advice would you give to her? Be silent and remain prayerful until he beats you until a pulp or better yet kills the unborn child? I’m all for being prayerful but at some point women have to know that they are not second class citizens to be treated like animals at the hands of their so called “head of the household”. That one last beating could be a sign of God that its TIME TO GO!! Needless to say, my friend is getting out of that marriage fast.
It’s funny how you labeled your comment name “KeepFaith”, because you have no faith in God at all. Your entire comment put’s no trust in God whatsoever.
First of all, this article draws out God’s remedy for marriages in these situations. Specifically commanding wives to pray for their husbands. A lot of you don’t have faith in God’s ability to change your husband, so that doesn’t seem like a real solution to your problem.
In the case of abuse, the Bible also states that God has called us to peace. Therefore in the event of consistent verbal and physical abuse a wife should separate (1 Cor 7:15). No one here has implied or directly told any woman to stay in an abusive relationship.
What the enemy is trying to do in circumstances like this is cause divorce—which God hates—and destroy a woman’s faith in the Lord by not waiting on the his move to change their husband.
What the Bible does is realign the order of husbands and wives in the household and this Hebrew roots awakening has exposed the disorder in the households of many.
At the end of the day, the Holy Spirit is what you need to trust God and see him move in your marriages and a lot of you are not even born again.